Are you starting to see the differences?

Hey there wives of the world!


How’s your reading of “His Brain, Her Brains” going?

Are you starting to see the divine differences in your man?

Do you understand your husbands’ behavior?

Are you starting to understand how you should be looking at things differently?

It’s so much knowledge in this book it’s crazy!

  • It is my hope that this read will be one of the most mind renewing reads that you have encountered so far.
  • It is my hope that this book will renew your marriage relationship to the point of it being on and poppin!
  • It is my hope that you see your husband like God see’s him, and you begin to make adjustments in the way you view marriage as a whole.


This is about the fourth time that I’m reading this book and I am going through some great renewal because of it.

I am determined that I will forever be intentional about my marriage, and I will continue to do my part with the guidance of the Lord.

Because I make myself, and my husband my first priority, I am always hearing from the Holy Spirit on what I should and should not do concerning our lives. It’s so sweet to live my live listening to the Lord opposed to doing my own thing based on my own understanding.

Doing life that way did not work so well.

I am so excited to share this with you all, and that you have decided to level up as a wife.

Don’t forget to invite every wife who wants to grow as a woman, and as a spouse to join our tribe @

  • #Lovefirst Wives Club on Facebook!


  • to follow this blog and to download my free Ebook #LOVEFIRST


  • Tee shirts are also available for purchase


Remember to always go to LOVEFIRST!




Are you a wife that nags?


Are you a nagging, overbearing wife? Are you a bully to your man?

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If so, there is a Proverb for you:

Proverbs 21:19

It’s better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.

In my 15 years of counseling wives I have found that when a wife is nagging, it’s probably because she is trying to get her husband to do something that she wants him to do, or something she does not want him to do. Most likely this something the wife is nagging her husband about, he will probably never think to do. OR, if he thinks to do this something, most likely he will not do what she wants him to do in the form or fashion in which she wants him to do it.

Listen Linda. Let your husband be great and do not sweat the small stuff. Give him permission, and the respect to do him. Lower any unrealistic expectation you may have of your husband.

Tip: This unrealistic expectation may include telling him how to drive!

Question for ya.

What if he does not drive just like you want him to, or does not put a trash bag back in the trashcan after he empties it? What would happen? What is the worst-case scenario if your man does not do what you want him to do, the way you want him to do it?

My advice to you is to please calm down, and understand his brain does not, and will not operate like yours does.

Bring some peace to your life and breathe please!


When your husband does not do what you want him to, and you feel your self-getting ready to pounce:

1: Take a step back and breathe!

2: Instead of nagging, say, “babe I love you”!

3: Then use the opportunity to discuss what it is you may need from him calmly with out attitude.

Nagging usually comes out of a place of frustration, but why are you really frustrated?

 Sit down with your man and have the hard conversations, with the goal of seeking to understand him, and not necessarily seeking to be understood.

Fortunately, your way of doing things is not the only way to doing things.

Remember, by design, God created His brain different from your brain.



Instead, go to #LOVEFIRST in your mind, heart and in your emotions!  It will bring forth a much better and brighter partnership if consistently practiced!  Isn’t that what you want at the end of the day?

Please join us at the:



It’s a private page for wives only. So invite your friends who are wives that are serious about growing as a wife, and those who you know that want to enhance their marriage covenant!

The members of the wives club are reading a sensational book that changed my marriage forever,

“HIS BRAIN, HER BRAIN”, BY Walt and Barb Larimore.


 If you have not done so already, purchase the book today and start reading!

If you have purchased the book and have started reading it,

Keep reading

This book is going to change you life, and your marriage!


Marriage should be about understanding who each other is, and understanding why God put you with each other, and finally, the two of you growing together with a purpose, on purpose.


Thank you good people

Love you! Mean it!




Talking book club – part 2

Hello Ladies.

I am writing to invite and inform you, my dear friends, that I have launched an exciting new book club called,

“#LOVEFIRST wives book club”.

I have decided that I want to share with you how and where I have gathered a good portion of my knowledge. The source is books. I have read so many books in the past 10 years, and the reason why is because when I met one of my mentors, the first thing he said to my husband and I was, “Leaders are Readers”, and it is so true.

I am an information sponge!

I want to know everything about everything that will enhance my life and the way that I live it.

It has gotten to the point where I am reading two to three books at a time, and along with reading comes a lot of journaling. I find that writing down different points that stand out to me when reading helps me retain that information.

Also, I stay close to the people that are my mentors, so that I can glean from them what I need for my life and living as well.

So, that’s why I wanted to launch this book club for wives.

*I believe that there is so much information that wives have not obtained in order to be the best that we can be.

*I believe that there are too many divorces because of a lack of knowledge.

*I believe that there is an art and a mystery to being the wives that the Lord has created us to be.

*I believe that we as wives mostly have not been aware of this art nor has the mystery been uncovered.

So, join me every Saturday morning at 10 a.m. on periscope or Face book to join the club, and to discuss with me everything about:

“His Brain verses, Her Brain”.

I will also share on this platform, my blog (, the replay of every book club!

Again, the book to purchase is:

“His Brain Her Brain” by Walt and Barb Larimore.

We have already read chapters 1 and 2.

This Saturday coming, we will discuss chapters 3 through 5!

The book is also available as an audio book, so you can listen to it if you prefer. I actually do both!

So if you are new to the club, or have not yet done so, in order to catch up please read chapter’s 1- 5.

Tell all of your married, or soon to be married friends and family so that they also can join our club!

Great coming into you inbox today!!

I will be back soon!






Join our #Lovefirst wives book club


Hello everyone!

So. I’ve been posting on social media for everyone to join the #LOVEFIRST wives club (temporary name), by purchasing the book “His Brain, Her Brain”, by Walt and Barb Larimore. I have mentioned this book many times and the reason being, this book saved my marriage, and changed my perspective on the way I looked at my husband.

I believe in sharing everything that I know. I am a student of life only to share it all with those who will listen.

Generosity is my thing, so please. Get this book, and let’s explore together on how to make our marriages amazing!

I believe God put this book in my hands so that His message for wives and husbands would be revealed. I believe that our marriage blue prints did not give us all of what we needed to have successful marriages. I don’t know about you, but my parents did not know that they were teaching me how to be married by their marriage.

Don’t get me wrong, my parents did the best that they knew how, and they are still married today, BUT there is a lot that I have had to learn about marriage success since I’ve been married.

So, with all of that being said, “His Brain, Her Brain”, was one of the best teachers that I have had.

Join me! You and a girlfriend! Get the book, and start learning!!! Start a small group of your own!! It will be a wonderful journey of discovery that will help you love your husband for who he is, and more importantly, you will love him for who God created him to be!!

Hit me up in the comment section if you are joining this squad. Married, soon to be married, and those who just want good information for your relationship!!

You are going to hug me for this!

Get your book on kindle, you’re nearest Christian bookstore, or any bookstore near you.

Peace and Love,


Self Evalutation

Hello There good people!

How is your year going?

The last blog I posted I mentioned being plugged in!

Being properly plugged in is key for you to establish your place in the world, and to meet every goal that our Father in heaven has for you this year.

Plugging in means, connecting to the power source, which is the Lord. Do not be like the lamp that is sitting on the table useless because its not plugged in. The lamp has no power if its not plugged into the electrical outlet.

So, let me ask you, are you plugged in?

Do not, I repeat, do not let this year finish and you have not leveled up in every area of your life?

What are you reading?

Who are you studying? My mentor says, “Readers are Leaders”

Who is mentoring you?

Is anyone watching you and you don’t know it?

How is your devotion life?

You cannot do anything successfully unless your steps are ordered by the Lord.  So you meeting with the Lord every morning is imperative.

How’s your marriage, or your relationships?

Are you going to #Lovefirst even if you don’t want to?  Or are you constantly giving people that upset you a piece of your mind!  Everybody please keep that piece of your mind, you need all of it.

Are you continuing to be offended when your loved one is telling you the truth about yourself?

Hmmmmmmm?  I just stopped through to check in on you.

I seriously wanted to ask you some thought provoking questions.  Questions to help you do some self evaluating so that the first quarter of the year does not pass you by, and you find yourself still in that same place that you’ve been in for too long.

Let’s move people!! Lets move!!  Please make this year your best year yet.

Plug In please!

Do exactly what you are supposed to do this year!  Plug in to every power source that is available to you!  Do not miss God this year.

C’mon, there is somebody that is waiting on you!!

Actually there are people waiting for you to plug in because they need what you have to offer, so that they can also level up!

Do not disappoint!



Plug in in 2017


Okay peeps.  It’s 2017, and I want to dedicate my first few blog post to wives.

I feel like I need to go back to the basics, which means that we will be going back to the beginning. 

In Genesis, the Lord shows us exactly how and why He created us.  It is so awesome that although we were created after man and all of the animals, we were not an after thought.  We were the piece to God’s amazing puzzle that makes everything fit.  I personally am honored, and I do not take it lightly.

For many years I did not have a clue about why I was created, and my life purpose. To say the least, that caused me many problems.

I honestly thought my husband needed to follow my lead, because obviously, I knew how to do this thing called marriage better than he did.  HA.  I was wrong.

I needed to plug in to God’s intent, and unplug from Ingrid’s way of doing things.

In Genesis 2:18-25 this is what God said:

18Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” 19So the LORD God formed from the ground all the wild animals and all the birds of the sky. He brought them to the manc to see what he would call them, and the man chose a name for each one. 20He gave names to all the livestock, all the birds of the sky, and all the wild animals. But still there was no helper just right for him.

21So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the LORD God took out one of the man’s ribsd and closed up the opening. 22Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.

23“At last!” the man exclaimed.

“This one is bone from my bone,

and flesh from my flesh!

She will be called ‘woman,’

because she was taken from ‘man.’”

24This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.

25Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.

We clearly see what God‘s intent was, and that was woman to help man.  Not to lead man, but to help man.

Many years ago I came to this revelation.

Now, this does not mean that man has his foot on a woman’s neck and she has no say.  No, this simply is giving us a guide for marriage, and what our God given role is.

I also discovered in Ephecians 5:21-30

21And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

22For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

25For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her26to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.b 27He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. 29No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. 30And we are members of his body.

Many times when you hear marriage speakers, you hear about the wife submitting, but here in verse 21,  it says clearly to submit one to another, and the writer gives instruction for each spouse on how to do that.

I realized that as long as I did not plug into God’s word on marriage I got marriage wrong time after time. 

I believe God has given wives’ an awesome responsibility!


In the weeks to come I will share more about marriage from a wife’s perspective.  Once I understood the keys that I am about to share with you, my life and my marriage changed forever. 

Don’t get me wrong, marriage is the most challenging thing  I have ever had to do, but with being plugged in to God’s way of dwelling in marriage it is the most rewarding accomplishment ever!  AND, continues to be as life with Todd Pickett continues!

We have found a golden place in love that I would not trade for anything in the world.  Our marriage has been a true testimony of the Love of God!  No Joke!

So stay tuned to!

We are going to dig in deep concerning marriage!!

Start reading Genesis 2, and Ephesians 5, so that the Lord can begin to speak to you concerning your marriage.  Truly plug in to God and His word, so that you can start 2017 with Gods instruction for your life, and your marriage.

It’s going to be a great year people!!

Also, be sure to go to the shop tab on to get your tee shirts, and if you have not done so, purchase your copy of my book #LOVEFIRST!!

Love you guys!!

Word Exchange

Hello people!

I have a few questions for you?

What does your conversation sound like?

What do you do when you get discouraged?

Do you listen to the discouragement?

What words do you use when there is discouragement all around you?

What do you honestly do when something does not go the way that you expected it to?

What do you do when something happens to you that you don’t like?

What do you do when your child does something wrong?

What do you do when your significant other has a different view from you?

What do you do when an unexpected expense comes up?

Antidote – quit listening to discouragement, and start speaking encouragement.


Another few questions for you.

What is your phrase of War?

What is your phrase of peace?

Do you know that circumstances speak to you?

A wise woman once told me this; “Circumstances are a contributing factor to my life, but not the deciding factor of my life”.

I just want to send a word to you, to remind you that your every response, to every circumstance, should be full of power and authority.

God has given us, through Jesus Christ, the ability to speak life!

So create a WORD EXCHANGE within your vocabulary!

AND PLEASE, PLEASE, do not agree with the circumstances’ with your words.

Use your words to:

*Influence yourself and others toward the positive –


*Change every atmosphere toward the positive


*Encourage, encourage, encourage


If you follow my advice, you will be surprised how powerful your words are when you are plugged into whom and what the Lord says about you.

You must believe God.   Allow the purpose of God for your life to be what you believe for all of your life. Do not leave out anything. Include, your money, your personal growth, your children, your spouse, your job, and your relationship’s. Do not be that person that believes God in part.  Believe Him at His word.  He created you to be His representative in the earth!

I want all of you to be a positive Polly and not a negative Nancy.


I love you all, and am so excited to see you finish 2016 strong, and to start 2017 with great goals, great power, great movement, AND GREAT WORDS!


You got this!



Evaluate and Shift

Hello everyone,

How was your year? I hope you had a year that your every goal and desire was reached.

I must say that I had probably one of the most challenging of years. Although challenging, it was the absolute best year that I have had in a long time. I had a year of tremendous growth in every area. I reached major goals, experienced a depth in love like never before, and have established life long relationships with some really cool people. I’ve  officially started several new businesses, and have redefined others, to include marriage and life coaching.

This, my dear friends, was a phenomenal year! The scripture that says, “what the devil meant for harm, God will turn around for good”, is very real, and is what sums up how my year started and is now ending!

I had a couple of people to assist in my success in terms of coaching me in business. You know what I always say, “every body needs a coach”!

Thank you Cassie Brown, and Kimberly Ann, for being my constant kick in the butt all year long! You two ROCK!

AND, my husband and my children are the!

So now that I have given you an overview of my year, I want to share with you how I evaluate and shift.

There is one thing that I did all year, and that was to stay in the face of God for instruction, and to stay connected to like minded people who challenge me to increase and grow.

Guys, when I say I listened to the Holy Spirit, I mean I listened to the Holy Spirit. Not only did I listen, but I also moved when He said to move, no matter whether I was doubtful, afraid, or just could not understand what He was saying, and/or I could not see how what he was saying would work.

I literally jumped every time He said move!

Because of me simply doing what I heard from the Lord, my faith has grown.

I believe more than ever, that the Lord, by His divine power, has given us everything that we need for living life to the fullest. (2 Peter 1:3)

There must be a plugging in though.

Just like when a lamp is plugged into the electrical socket, which is connected to the main source of electricity, for the purpose of receiving the invisible power needed for it to work properly.

We must plug into the Lords power the same way. If there is no plug in, there is no power.

I don’t know about you, but I know that I need His power every second of the day!

Okay, I think I have made my point.

So, I am in the process, once again, of evaluating and shifting. Here is what I am doing.


  • I consult the Lord on what to read daily. I must be relevant in what I’m studying.
  • I consult the Lord on what to add and what to delete from all of my business affairs.
  • I consult the Lord on how to pray in this season, and who to pray for.
  • I will look at how I can love deeper.
  • I will look at how I can be more generous and take my kindness to another level. I always want to give more!
  • I look at how to serve my husband and children, because every new season requires a different way to serve.


These are just a few things that I am currently doing to prepare for the sensational ending of 2016, and the exciting beginning of 2017!

I hope this will help all who are actively moving and shaking towards Gods purpose and destiny.

Please know that we were created for Gods good pleasure. His desire is for us to prosper, to look at ourselves for the purpose of getting rid of what’s in us that He cannot use, and to become the best that we can be for the purpose of being great Ambassadors for the Lord everywhere that we go.

Are you ready!


xo ingrid

I have so much to share!

Hello good people,

How have you all been? I am writing to let you know what I’ve been up to. There is so much going on, and I thought it was time to share with you all of my exciting news!

I will start with me personally.

Since April, I have been working on my, “Professional Life Coaching certification. Well, I am done. I am Life Coach certified. Those who I will serve as a Life Coach are:

*Married couples
*Couples that are a soon to be married.

It has been an exciting few months being in school. I love to learn and I will forever be a student!

Along with becoming a Life Coach, we are launching a really cool Tee Shirt line. I will be displaying them on social media which gives everyone a look at what’s available. The instruction on how to view these Tee’s is to go to my website: www.ingridpickett,com, and go to the shop tab. We have men and women’s designs, so go purchase your Tee Shirt today!!

The next exciting thing is my husband and I are launching, “Love First Marriage Movement” (LFMM). We are relationship specialist, who love to love, and we love to give couples the tools for loving each other unconditionally, and tools on how to go to Love First.

Our website launch date is soon to come. We have, over 24 plus years of marriage, and we realized that our journey is to be shared with the world. Personally the Lord has given me great revelation for wives, and that revelation has come from my marriage trials and tribulations. There is one thing that I know for sure:

All things do work together for good to those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose. (Romans 8:28)

When I finally learned my God given purpose in marriage, which is to be the Genesis 2:18 women to my husband; I began to really see why I was created. I was created for my man, and his success!  His success is my success!

Many years ago, when I started praying for my husband to change, The Lord immediately said to me, “In order for Todd to change, you have to change.” I took heed, and began on one of the most challenging journeys of my life.

Becoming Todd Pickett’s wife Gods way! I love my life!

The next very exciting event happening in my life is that my Husband and I, and our congregation are moving into our own church building on November 6th. We are so at awe with God. He has absolutely provided everything that is needed for this big move. We can’t wait to serve the community that God has placed us in. God will be glorified for sure. If you live in the DMV, come out and join us at:

7235 Steel Mill Drive, Springfield VA, 22150.  November 6th @ 10 am sharp!

So this is what’s been happening in my world!

I’m sure that you all have been well, and are doing amazing!!

Remember that this is the year of acceleration and purpose!

Expect great things for the remaining of the year and into 2017!!


Ingrid Pickett signing off til next time.