Are you a nagging, overbearing wife? Are you a bully to your man?
If so, there is a Proverb for you:
It’s better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.
In my 15 years of counseling wives I have found that when a wife is nagging, it’s probably because she is trying to get her husband to do something that she wants him to do, or something she does not want him to do. Most likely this something the wife is nagging her husband about, he will probably never think to do. OR, if he thinks to do this something, most likely he will not do what she wants him to do in the form or fashion in which she wants him to do it.
Listen Linda. Let your husband be great and do not sweat the small stuff. Give him permission, and the respect to do him. Lower any unrealistic expectation you may have of your husband.
Tip: This unrealistic expectation may include telling him how to drive!
Question for ya.
What if he does not drive just like you want him to, or does not put a trash bag back in the trashcan after he empties it? What would happen? What is the worst-case scenario if your man does not do what you want him to do, the way you want him to do it?
My advice to you is to please calm down, and understand his brain does not, and will not operate like yours does.
Bring some peace to your life and breathe please!
When your husband does not do what you want him to, and you feel your self-getting ready to pounce:
1: Take a step back and breathe!
2: Instead of nagging, say, “babe I love you”!
3: Then use the opportunity to discuss what it is you may need from him calmly with out attitude.
Nagging usually comes out of a place of frustration, but why are you really frustrated?
Sit down with your man and have the hard conversations, with the goal of seeking to understand him, and not necessarily seeking to be understood.
Fortunately, your way of doing things is not the only way to doing things.
Remember, by design, God created His brain different from your brain.
PLEASE QUIT NAGGING LADIES.
Instead, go to #LOVEFIRST in your mind, heart and in your emotions! It will bring forth a much better and brighter partnership if consistently practiced! Isn’t that what you want at the end of the day?
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“#LOVEFIRST WIVES CLUB” ON FACEBOOK!
It’s a private page for wives only. So invite your friends who are wives that are serious about growing as a wife, and those who you know that want to enhance their marriage covenant!
The members of the wives club are reading a sensational book that changed my marriage forever,
“HIS BRAIN, HER BRAIN”, BY Walt and Barb Larimore.
If you have not done so already, purchase the book today and start reading!
If you have purchased the book and have started reading it,
This book is going to change you life, and your marriage!
Marriage should be about understanding who each other is, and understanding why God put you with each other, and finally, the two of you growing together with a purpose, on purpose.
Thank you good people
Love you! Mean it!